If we put them in opposition or at odds with each other, then they cancel each other out and democracy does not have this inclusive diversity to work with, but if they become natural allies through mechanism design or through the “good enough” consensus, there is a reliably-produced – for example, in Taiwan, marriage equality. We produced such a consensus so that individuals wed, but families do not. That has united both generations on both ends so that they can work on something that they can all live with.